Sexy Momma!

I went to an all-women Burlesque show this weekend. All women performers, all women audience, many ages, races, sizes, shapes and sexual orientations represented. And for that night, every single one of the women in that room was SEXY! Embraced being sexy, celebrated their sexiness, hooted and hollered everyone else's sexiness. It was beautiful.

I adore being sexy, acting sexy, feeling sexy. What woman doesn't? And yet, how easy it is to forget to feel sexy. How easy to get caught up in day-to-day life, with kids, with jobs, with responsibilities, with all the things we need to do where feeling sexy isn't a pre-requisite to getting things done. And in places or with people where being sexy may even be viewed as a deterrent. Where we need to be smart, successful, confident women who don't use our sexiness to get by.

Well I for one, am sick of needing to choose whether to be smart or sexy. I want to be both. I want to be a feminist who embraces her sexiness. Who can be sexy in jeans and a t-shirt, or in business attire, or in fishnets and fuck me boots, or in my birthday suit.

Speaking of fishnets...my favourite Burlesque act of the night was two woman in little black dresses, putting on and taking off various colours and styles of fishnet stockings. On themselves, off each other, relishing both acts, both the attirement and the removal. Pointing their toes to the sky to slowly, playfully, pull the stockings up their calves and thighs; grabbing to drag them off, and discard them into the air in lieu for another pair to try. How Fun! How Sexy!

And then - there's my two girls. Who are 8 and 10 years old, and are nowhere yet near encouraged to be sexy. But who I want to grow into woman who are sexy. Who believe they are sexy. So in small ways I try to teach them. Teach them that I am happy with my body and myself. That I take care of myself, dress up in clothes that I feel good in, paint my nails in strange and colourful designs, because it makes me happy. Because if I feel happy, I can make other people feel happy.

Every woman is sexy. Every woman is beautiful. Find the sexy in you and bring it out.

P.S. I love being called a MILF. I loved hearing that acronym for the first time, long after I had became a Mom, and during my journey to re-discovering the sexy in me. Yes, I am a Mother You Would Like to Fuck. Doesn't mean I will. But thanks for the compliment.